5 things never to tell your girlfriend during an argument

Relationships are often beautiful and peaceful but every now and then, an argument or two will crop up. This is usually a perfect tests for couples to see if they are stronger than the argument or the argument will defeat them.

Men, sometimes you can be paired with an all out drama queen who will argue with you anytime and anywhere or you may be paired with the quiet bunny who only bring it up when you two are alone and you cannot escape.

With either type of girlfriend, they have a common denominator. Here are five things you should never say to your girlfriend during an argument:

1. Calm down/relax/take it easy now

If you like your life, never say these words to her. The truth may be that is she is not calm or relaxed but she already knows this and you will not get any boyfriend points for mentioning it to her. By telling her to relax, you are telling her she is out of control instead of showing her you are listening to what she is saying.

2. Are you mad/crazy/out of your senses?


Your girlfriend might be shouting at you and saying harsh words but you should not do the same. Two wrongs do not make a right. If you see she is riled up, then wait until she is calm before you express that what she said earlier hurt your feelings. Do not shout back or challenge her verbally because neither of you will be communicating, you will only be fueling the argument.

3. So…are we going to have make-up sex after?



Unless you and your girlfriend know each other well and this is a routine with you, please do not ask it during a fight. Fighting is not a pre-requisite to sex. While make-up sex can be exciting, if your girl was genuinely angry with you, asking this question will dig you deeper into a sexless hole. If you like yourself and like having sex with her, listen to all she has to say.

4. Saying nothing at all

 
While some men feel this is the best strategy and it will further avoid problems, it can infuriate your girlfriend. It may seem like she is just shouting for shouting sake but the truth is, she is communicating a lot of things to you and wants you to listen. She is most likely screaming because she kept it in for too long or she is tired of saying it calmly. Yes, screaming is a wrong approach to communicating her problems but you staring at her while she is expecting answers is a wrong response. They say silence is the best answer for a fool and unless your aim is to make your girlfriend feel foolish, open your mouth and communicate.













5. Oya, sorry now
 
This is similar to shut up at this point. You may think apologizing before she finishes giving you your life story is the best way to calm her down or end her raking but it is not. Let an arguing woman finish what she is saying. You can say sorry as a response or say sorry when she takes a pause but please do not interrupt her with the sorry or say it with the aim of making her shut up. Sometimes you may have the right words but the wrong delivery so study her and know when best to apologize.
 

7 behaviors you must not tolerate from your boyfriend

When you’re in love, you can be blind to the many signals that you’re in a bad relationship. Most of the time, you try to overlook your partners fault even when you know deep in your heart that you should end the relationship and move on.

No one is perfect, we know so any mild issues between you and your partner can be resolved. But, some flaws cannot be swept under the carpet or ignored. It could leave you damaged for life.

Sometimes, it is difficult to accept that your boyfriend’s flaws are too much to handle and you keep deceiving yourself that he will get better. Months pass and he’s not getting better but worse.

There are certain behaviours you shouldn’t tolerate in a relationship, no matter how much you’re in love. You shouldn’t allow yourself to become a victim. You shouldn’t subject yourself to abuse.

If your boyfriend exhibits these behaviours, you need to take a bow before it’s too late.

1. He abuses you emotionally or verbally: He humiliates you, puts you down and makes fun of you in front of other people. He is constantly threatening, bullying, and criticizing you without caring how it makes you feel. He makes you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go out and the list goes on. This can destroy your self-esteem, causing you to be depressed and also give up on yourself. No one should make you feel like you’re worth nothing. The earlier you realize you deserve better and gather the courage to leave the relationship, the better for you.

2. He physically abuses you: Many women have lost their lives, others have been deformed and many others are still living with the scars from an abusive relationship. Breaking may be more complicated than it seems but, for your sake, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. You shouldn’t be anybody’s punching bag. You deserve better. It’s time to stop rationalizing his behavior as “normal” and move on.











3. He isolates you from your friends and family: If he is trying to isolate you from your loved ones, you should be careful. Any man who tries to isolate you from the people who truly love and care about you should not be trusted. It’s either he knows that your friends and family will try to make you see good reasons why you should not be with him or point out those dangerous flaws of his and he doesn’t want that. So, he tries to keep you far away from them. You should not have to sever relationships with your loved ones because of your partner. Your boyfriend must recognize that you are a person outside of the relationship.







4. Impossibly high standards and unrealistic expectations: Some boyfriends can be so delusional. They have the image of what they want their partner to be in their head and they expect you to be that way. They try to change you into something you’re not. You shouldn’t have to deal with someone who doesn’t allow you the luxury of being yourself. If you have to constantly keep pretending to be who you’re not and doing things you’re not comfortable with just to please your boyfriend then maybe, you shouldn’t be with him because when you get tired of pretending and start being you, there will be trouble.

5. Extreme possessive, obsessive behavior: When obsession is confused for love, relationships can become dangerous. At the beginning of the relationships, it’s natural for you to be the sole focus of your partner’s thoughts. You want to spend time together and are always thinking of each other when you’re not. It’s okay for him to be interested in your day-to-day activities but when it seems a little much, it may be cause for concern. If he becomes over-committed to knowing your whereabouts, who were you with, what time you went out, makes you feel guilty about going out, checks up on you excessively, he may be exhibiting overly-possessive behaviors and you may be putting yourself in a dangerous situation.

6. Disrespect: Be with someone who shows you that necessary degree of respect. If you realize that your boyfriend doesn’t respect you at all, it’s time to step back and ask yourself whether or not you should remain in a relationship where you’re not shown any respect. Relationships aren’t always easy, and you and your partner won’t always get along but, should however, always respect each other.

7. He can never apologize: If you’re boyfriend never apologizes when he’s wrong, you need to be concerned. This may not seem like a big deal but goes to show that he thinks he’s superior in the relationship. If you’re wrong, you should be able to say you’re sorry, what’s the big deal. Sometimes, it’s hard to admit our mistakes and say sorry. But, a man who never apologizes or sees any reason why he should apologize to a woman should be ‘feared’.

It’s time to stop rationalizing certain behavior as “normal”. Learn how to recognize when its’ time to end the relationship and move on with your life before it’s too late.

Watch out for womanizers! These signs will keep you safe

Is there a simple test for a womanizer? You surely do not want to marry a guy like that! These tips will clearly indicate you he is that kind of a man. Married ladies, attention, check your husbands right now! Some of these signs work for them, too.

1. Ongoing search

 You two meet in some romantic location, such as a restaurant or a night club. He talks to you, but somehow you get this odd feeling. He looks at you, but out of the corner of his eye he also monitors the room. He searches for other hotties there. That’s a womanizer!


2. Too much passion

You feel as if you were a princess in some fairytale. He gives you all his attention and such an intense passion. However, the chances are this passion would burn out soon and he would need a new “muse” to rekindle it.




3. No future

You date the guy, and may even make love to him. That goes on for a while, but he never offers you to meet some of his friends or parents. You stay locked out of his life, and he shows no interest in meeting yours. Here you go, you got another sign!

4. The party boy

One of the top signs of a womanizer is this: he always has an option. These guys have a hard time building relationships and staying loyal. They do not really appreciate the women they are with. Even the husbands could be like that. He married you but remains a party boy? Well, it’s not good, he might be a womanizer and keep on doing what he used to do before he met you.

5. He is on and off 
 
For a time he is all that into you. You get excited and tell your friends about the boy. And all of a sudden he disappears. No phone calls, no messages, nothing. He may show up after in a while and be mad at you for demanding the answers or turn it all a joke.

 If you see a combination of these signs in a guy you like, run, take to your heels and leave him far behind. Otherwise, if you marry him, you would have to run after him all the time!